Time Capsule in 2010 and Moving to 2011

We all know that month of December rapidly escaped into the hands to Mother of Time, as though each moment had more important things to do. I’m a person who lives wholeheartedly in the present but to no avail, the sands of the hourglass are cascading in full furies... *sounds like Harry Potter*

Time bears all, time heals all and time tells all. In life and in all things, all I have to do is give it time. All in good time, all on its own time and just in the nick of time. Those are clichés, I might say. But all good clichés reveal what we believe to be mostly experienced.

What else is time? What value does 24 hours have to me? Better yet, how do I value my time? What is my planning with my time in 2011?

Time is like money (time is not money, let us not insult time) in that time is a resource. Most people wouldn’t dream of wasting money, but what about wasting time? What’s a waste of time? I have questioned myself whether I am wasting my time?

What is my planning with my time in 2011? What matters to me? What do I want to be? What do I want to accomplish? Who do I want to spend my time with? Where is my time going?

Arrghhh..... I need to take the time to think about this today, because all is in my head that have today is today.If I've never considered relflecting myself, then know this; please fully understand the importance and caliber of time...

By the way, what time is it? *38 years old man still wondering about time*

Corporate Journey

Sometimes in the morning I realized that sometimes I can find victory in the effort, although I was sick in the morning... so that was my theme for that day, so here are my victories... Collateral change management, and that's when it hit me. Of course I thought team performance was perfect. I'd created it. I would be more than happy to review it.

Here's what I realized:

- My perfect is not other people perfect.

- They don't have a perfect. In fact, there is no they. There is an individual, who wants something a little different.

- The more perfect I think it is, the less willing I'll be to let anyone change it.

- The only way to make it useful to everyone is to allow each person to change it to suit him or herself.

- The only way people will use it is if they do change it in some way.

- The only way I will encourage them to change it and make it their own is if I make it imperfect.

And I changed everything to make it half right, half finished. It wasn't pretty, but it was usable. I always asked the same question:

Why won't this work for me?

One by one I dealt with all the issues people saw as obstacles. One by one they made their own changes. One by one they took ownership for the system and became accountable for using it. Is this only a large-scale change effort idea? I don't think so. It's useful whenever I need someone else to take ownership for something. Just get it half right.

Here's the hard part: When someone changes my plan, I might think the new approach will be less effective. Resist the temptation to explain why my way is better. Just smile and say Great. The drive, motivation, and accountability that person will gain from running with its own idea will be well worth it.

Imperfectly, that is me.

Keep Trying...

Over the weekend, my mother and I fell into a serious discussion about the challenges of people management. “Why don’t people feel accountable?” I mumbled that to her.

Well, I guess I’m not sure.

I’m excited to come to the office every day and face whatever challenges are in front of me. I love to work (addicted may be). I’m excited about the industry I work for. I wish everyone in my team could feel like that, but I understand that some don’t.

Many times, the solution boils down to better communication and better attitudes. Management can communicate better by keeping everyone informed on critical issues, delivering frequent team updates, conducting open-forum activities, etc. Better attitudes? Well, that’s entirely up to the individual. I had the privilege of working some years at a business software company. At the first company meeting I attended, my boss said something like this: If you don’t like it here, leave. If you spend most of your day complaining about your job, find something else to do... well... shocking me at that time!

Anyway, blast to current situation, I have words throughout my team that say “Be the person you want to work with.” Most of us think a little differently: everyone else should work like me. That is nasty! haha...

I formed teams with different personalities and talents. I have to keep that in mind as I look around at the people I am work with. Different people, naturally, work differently. Maybe someone I find difficult to work with will bring a fresh perspective to a problem. Maybe the person who barely speaks in a group setting has brilliant ideas if I let them write down on paper first.

Well, I am open to other points of view, if I try to help instead of criticize, and if I try being the person I want to work with, others might follow my example. Even if somehow my job isn’t my most passion, I can still make the most of it by having a good attitude, and being grateful to have a job in such a tough economic climate.

Questions: Do you think my boss will think the same? Wake up Alf!

Emails...

How many times a week does your inbox flood with mail, and yet you’re disappointed and feel like none of it is worthwhile?

I’ve noticed this happening more and more with the dozens of emails I receive every day. I eagerly scan the incoming subject lines and who they’re from, and more often than not, I sigh and lean back in my chair because it’s all junk. Maybe junk I opted in for, or junk that I am sort of interested in but just not in the mood for at the time. In any case, I find that they mostly fall into one of these 5 categories:

1. Spam, spam, spam. It’s not even creative anymore. And those phishing attempts? Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. But the fact that people are still bothering means that there are a few suckers out there keeping the needle in a haystack method attractive for unscrupulous folk.

2. Newsletters. Most of the time there’s a sale announcement or a coupon from stores/companies/organizations for which I am a patron, which is fine. But after a few newsletters, I usually realize that the content is the same and the email’s only worth opening if I have a specific need to purchase something. I probably subscribe to too many newsletters, but I have just enough interest in their content or products to put up with frequent emails.

3. Boring. Bills, statements, order information, automated notifications or confirmations. All that business-y types of stuff that is relevant, but not usually exciting.

4. Semi-interesting. These are usually emails that seem interesting upon first glance, but turn out to be forwards, rickrolls, or misleading subject lines. Or from an email group that sometimes has useful or interesting content.

5. Good stuff. Personal email from acquaintances, friends, fans, and family. These are always the first ones I open (even if I’m a horrible slacker and don’t respond as quickly as I intend to).

I think my inbox apathy really mirrors the allure of personal snail mail; The best kind of mail to receive has a familiar return address and your name hand-written on the front.

When’s the last time you sent a handwritten letter to someone? I sealed up a letter to my teenage cousin a couple hours ago and will send it out tomorrow. It definitely takes more time, thought, and effort to write a letter the old-fashioned way… but as a recipient, that’s what I value the most.

My Personal Space

What is it about the inherent social-spatial lesson that I (and what seems like most people) understand that some people just don’t get?

You probably know what I’m talking about: when you enter a space that you must share with other members of the public, such as a foodcourt, you don’t sit down close to a stranger if there is a spot available at a “safe” distance, or one that is equidistant from other strangers. In a small room or on public transportation, it’s more acceptable to be in close proximity because there isn’t much space to begin with. But in a large room, it’s customary to allow for plenty of personal space and not crowd someone for no reason.

Right?

Next question: Wondering life in the moon?

Shit Life!

I have heard from so many people who complain about life and how shit is. Most in every single case the person who has been complaining has done absolutely nothing to change their life to make it less shit... so they are dumbed in stack of shit life then LOL!

Some people complained as a shit because they don’t have the money to do the things they want! There are literally hundreds of ways to make extra money, but ONLY if you are willing to work for it. I don’t mean work hard all day and all night I mean work smart and automate as much as possible so you are making money whilst you sleep.. how? use your shit imagination then *rite?*.

Or myself that always thinking that shit because I don’t have my ideal partner!

Again, I have thinking like this that I am giving all of my power away to an unknown entity, namely the person I think I should be with. But, rejunevate myself and try to do here is concentrate on being happy with myself before giving up part of the power to someone else. Heard from wise people that another piece of advice would be to concentrate on my strengths. Don’t waste time on minor weaknesses, concentrate on building up the things that I am already good at... which is complained Life is Shit!

Sometimes, that advice might be right, everybody might not like me and for one reason – I don’t like myself. There is no possible way people will like me until I truly like myself and if I am at this stage I have a lot of work to do on myself. Small steps – Every single journey I take in my life will begin with a small step and this is the same for changing my life. At this stage don’t think about the bigger picture, think about the small changes I want to make and work on them continuously and build up my repertoire until I am happy with myself.

I have to say if I am happy feeling like shit then there is obviously no need to make any changes... *rite?*

Next question: Any other shit in life?

F-word in Life

You’re trapped in a room for 3 days with your nasty ex, what do you do?
- Kill her dead.

You’re stuck on an elevator with the person you’ve fallen the hardest for, what happens?
- I rape them. Violently... dream on!

The celebrity you love the most offers to marry you, as long as you don’t talk to any of your current friends or family members anymore. Do you marry them?
- I’d probably consider it for about 10 seconds then politely decline and try to talk them around into marrying me anyways.

Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?
- Tell them to leave. Get out. Go. Never darken my door again.

If you ever want live to see another day, you’re forced to snort cocaine. Do you do it?
- Err, yeah. But knowing my luck I’d have a heart attack and die thanks to the coke.

If you woke up in one of the Saw movies, do you think you could survive?
- Yeah def….& I’d kill Jigsaw too, cos’ I’m F-wordin’ badass.

When is the last time you were in a photobooth taking pictures with friend?
- When I was very very young.

Who’s the last person you had a sleepover with?
- Me and myself.

Have you ever seen someone you knew and purposely avoided seeing them?
- I do it all the time.

Do you know anyone with such a terribly annoying voice that you can’t even stand it?
- Yes, and no matter how many times I tell them to not talk to me, they insist on doing so.

On average, what do you think you cry about the most?
- In general, nothing. Lately, my dad.

Do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you can tell everything to?
- Yes.

Who was the last guy you talked to?
- Andy the fat boy... my friend

Do you think best friends can be replaced?
- No.

Does the last person you held hands with mean a lot?
- Yes

Does it matter to you if your boyfriend/girlfriend smokes?
- Kinda, I’d rather they didn’t.

Do you think you have made a difference in anyone’s life?
- I like to think I have, probably not though.

Which of your friends is the easiest to talk to?
- Quite a few.

What’s going on between you and the last person you kissed?
- Nothing, anymore.

What friend do you tell the most?
- These questions lack all the basic fundamentals of correct Grammar.

Who was the last person you had a deep conversation with?
- My mum

Wheres the weirdest place you’ve changed clothes?
- In the middle of the street… moronic question

Are you going anywhere next summer?
- Yes.

Are you waiting for anyone to call right now?
- Noooooope.

Is the last person you kissed mad at you?
- Nope, more like I want her ass on a spike.

Are you shy?
- Nope.

Are you talkative?
- When I want to be.

Do you secretly like someone?
- Secretly? I think it’s pretty obvious.

Do you announce when you have to pee?
- Yep, just to make other people feel uncomfortable.

Who was the last person you cried in front of?
- My mum…..running theme here.

Are you good at hiding your feelings?
- I am the master.

How is life going for you right now?
- Pretty shit.

Do you trust people easily?
- I trust NO ONE.

Do you give out second chances easily?
- Nope.

Do you smile a lot?
- Depends. I don’t walk around with a big cheesy grin on my face if thats what you mean.

One thing you’re looking forward to?
- Sleeping tonight.

How do you feel about change?
- Change is good. I love Change.

Have you ever cried from being so mad?
- Yup. Lots and lots and lots.

Last time you got a text message and smiled?
- About a minute ago,

Have you ever made anyone laugh when they were crying?
- Tut, course I have. I’m hilarious.

Are you happy?
- Not really,

Will you kiss the person you last kissed again?
- Yes. With a F-wording baseball bat.

Have you ever regretted letting someone go?
- Yes, once…and once only.

Do you prefer to be around people, or by yourself?
- Depends who it is. Most people annoy the hell out of me.

If you were abandoned in the wilderness, would you survive?
- Probably not.

First person to text today?
- My friend….quelle suprise

The person you’re in love with moves across the world, what do you do?
- Move with them.

Any other ‘F-wording question’?